National Tragedies and God

We can certainly all agree that the events that took place on December 14th in the town of  Newtown, Connecticut are horrific, inexcusable, and represent the most epic proportions of tragedy and sorrow.


Some people are saying we should just spend this day loving our families, being thankful they are still here with us, and lifting our hearts in prayer or empathy to the families who can’t be with the ones they lost in the gruesome school shooting.  We shouldn’t evolve this disaster into a discussion about protocol, just spend the day in bereavement and being grateful if we aren’t among those who are enduring the stinging ache that is surely felt by those who have suffered a loss to their community.  I agree, we should ever be aware of the idea that this life is fleeting, and spend all our moments with our children in reflection that this could all be over in one flit of a butterfly wing.  In only an instant, everything can change.


With that being said, rest assured that there will be a time in the not-so-distant future when the survivors of this horrific day will rise up and demand justice.  The perpetrator took the cowardly way out, so there will be no judge or jury.  The survivors will begin to wonder “what could have been done to prevent this?”  And from there I predict a pursuit of changes in legislation.


What we can’t all agree on is what we can do to try to ensure violent acts of this nature don’t happen in our towns to our children in our schools.  There are several popular theories that I have read about since the onset of this tragedy, which took place only 24 hours ago.


There is the theory that if we allowed God into schools then this wouldn’t have happened.


Joshua 1:9 :  “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”


Instead of turning this tragedy into a reason to try to change laws and public schools into a place where Christianity is forced upon even those who don’t believe in it, read and know your bible.  You don’t have to enforce unison prayer at school in order to have your God present there.  If you believe He is there, then He is there.  Your entire religion is based on the faith that there is an ever-present entity guarding you if you pledge your faith and abidance with your religion.


When you have faith in God you have the belief  that through your faith all things are possible, and that the Lord GOD is always with you.  So please, I ask of you, just as you ask many to consider your faith and belief, for a moment, please also consider the facts.


These definitions were taken directly from


 faith [feyth] noun

1.confidence or trust in a person or thing: faith in another’s ability.

2.belief that is not based on proof: He had faith that the hypothesis would be substantiated by fact.

3.belief in God or in the doctrines or teachings of religion: the firm faith of the Pilgrims.
4.belief in anything, as a code of ethics, standards of merit, etc.: to be of the same faith with someone concerning honesty.
5.a system of religious belief: the Christian faith; the Jewish faith.


be·lief -[bih-leef]-noun

1.something believed; an opinion or conviction: a belief that the earth is flat.

2.confidence in the truth or existence of something not immediately susceptible to rigorous proof: a statement unworthy of belief.
3.confidence; faith; trust: a child’s belief in his parents.
4.a religious tenet or tenets; religious creed or faith: the Christian belief.



1.something that actually exists; reality; truth: Your fears have no basis in fact.
2.something known to exist or to have happened: Space travel is now a fact.
3.a truth known by actual experience or observation; something known to be true: Scientists gather facts about plant growth.
4.something said to be true or supposed to have happened: The facts given by the witness are highly questionable.
5.Law. . Often, facts. an actual or alleged event or circumstance, as distinguished from its legal effect or consequence.  Compare question of fact, question of law.


The Facts

The fact is, not everyone shares the same beliefs.  There are many people and families who are leading good, positive lives and show their children the ability to differentiate between right and wrong, and they do it all without the guidance of an entity.  Another fact is that we live in a nation where we are afforded the right to freedom of religion.  When you insist on enforcing laws where prayer is demanded in schools, you are infringing upon the rights of those who don’t share your beliefs.  Another fact is, you are free to share the teachings of Christ in your home or at your place of worship, and you don’t have to publicly bow your head, drop to your knees, or fold your hands and close your eyes to have a word of prayer.  Another fact, if your child prays at school, he or she will not be expelled.


More facts:
On Friday, December 14th, 2012, 20-year-old Adam Lanza (shown below) allegedly shot his mother in their home with her own gun.  At some point that morning, he adorned himself in black clothing and armed himself with two 9mm handguns and an AR-15-type rifle.  He then went to Sandy Hook Elementary School, entered the building then killed 20 children and 6 adults before committing suicide.
Adam Lanza


My Belief:
This was done with undisturbed intention.  This assassin didn’t care if he walked in during the school announcements.  He didn’t care if he walked in during the Pledge of Allegiance.  He didn’t care if he walked in during the school prayer (if it was allowed).  He made the choice to kill a lot of innocent people.  He took his mother’s guns (which she bought and legally registered) and performed heinous illegal acts with these weapons.  He disobeyed gun control laws and had no regard for human life.  Praying would not have stopped this reign of terror.  If  God was in their hearts, He was there with them that day, and He is with them now and with their families still.


If  you have religious faith and belief, you may struggle with your faith or beliefs in a time like this.  You may ask yourself  “How could God let this happen to these children?”  Then you might say it was because God wasn’t allowed into schools.  To be very blunt, I call bullshit.  If you believe in God then you believe He is wherever you are.  He doesn’t ask to come into your home, you ask Him to come in.  If you are at the mall shopping, or at a theater watching a movie, or at school, there isn’t prayer on the loudspeakers to let you know He is there with you, you brought Him in with you inside your heart and mind.  It is common for Christians to believe that whatever happens is a part of His design, and some will say this is His way of saying we should pray in schools, and to you I say you are really reaching.  Whatever man-made structure we may enter, we bring our heart and mind in with us, just like the crazy person with the guns.


No entity could have prevented this horrific act of violence, to put it simply – Crazy is Crazy.  Lunatics can get their hands on guns, and they don’t care about laws or if you believe in God, because your faith doesn’t shield you with armor.  Living a life guided by the principles of your faith has much more to do with where you will spend your after-life than protecting you or your children from people who want to do you harm.


So just for a second, please try to put your religious beliefs aside and have a real chat with your kids about the facts.  There are people in this world who want to hurt other people.  You can’t always be there to protect them and neither can God.  As they mature, your children are sometimes in places where you can’t be with them.  You can’t keep them holed up in your house and sheltered from this world forever.  It is your job to instill in them the values and know-how to survive as adults.  They have to have the tools they need to survive LIFE.  Teach them not to be afraid, but to be always aware of their surroundings.  If they are old enough to understand the details from the events that are happening every day in this country, then talk with them about it instead of insulating them from it.


I understand the inherent need to protect your babies, no matter how big or little they are.  I have three children.  My son is 13, my oldest daughter is nearly 12, and my youngest daughter is 4.  In the wake of the events of yesterday’s events, I did two very important things with my children.  First, I hugged them all tightly (as I do every single day and at every single opportunity I have).  Then, I had a REAL discussion with my oldest children about what they think they might do if they were faced with a scenario such as the massacre that took place in that elementary school yesterday.  I am a matter-of-fact purveyor of knowledge and fact to my kids.  I don’t bullshit around with them and shield them from the events that take place in the world.  I explain to them in a way they best understand that there is evil, and they need to be aware of it.  I don’t scare the shit out of them, I talk to them.  Needless to say, I don’t really have a way to tell my 4-year-old anything about yesterday, I just have faith that the child care facility I have chosen for her has used the proper preventative measures to protect her, and I believe they have a secure facility and have taken many precautions against intruders.  And I don’t KNOW that there will never be a time when she isn’t in eminent danger, but I hope she never is.  What I can’t do is quit my job and hold her in my arms all day long, neither can my husband, even though deep-down we know it is literally one of the only ways we can shield her from the harmful world we have around us.


I know this is just a rant, but I just couldn’t sit still and not say a thing, this is on all of our minds.  Please feel free to comment on this blog and share your views.  I want to know what you think and feel.  Make Swiss cheese out of my story, do your best to shoot holes through my theories and beliefs.  This world would be a boring place if we all did things the same way.  I wish there was a way we could all be peaceful and kind, but sometimes you have to stop hugging one another and protect yourselves.


With all my heart…